Dear Julie
Julie Skinner
Issue date: 4/8/10 Section: Arts & Entertainment
Dear Julie,
I'll be graduating in a few weeks, and am worried about the future of my current relationship. My girlfriend and I have been dating for a couple months now, and I already care a lot for her. However, I'm not sure of my plans after graduating, and as it looks now, I may be moving away. I'm not sure if I should bring this up to her so soon in our relationship, because I don't want her to think that I'm trying to plan out our future together. At the same time, I don't want it to be a shock to her if I do move. Should I just wait until the time comes and then figure out what to do?
- MovinMan
MovinMan,
If I were you, I would let her know all the possibilities of what you might do after graduation. I think that's only fair to her. I can see where you wouldn't want it to come out as though you are trying to plan things out too closely for a future with her, but I don't think springing it on her that you're moving at the last minute is the way to go about it. You also need to think about if you would want a long-distance relationship if that were to happen. If not, you need to be prepared to discuss that with her when the time comes. I know you might be overwhelmed with not knowing exactly what will happen after graduation, but try to be as open as possible to the people closest to you. Their lives are affected greatly by what happens in your own life. So, I would say have a heart-to-heart with your girlfriend, and let her know all the possibilities of what might happen after you graduate. Good luck to you, and congratulations on graduating!
Dear Julie,
Not to be mean, but I can't help but notice that you give advice, but you aren't in a relationship yourself. Why is this? I think your advice is great and helpful, but I'm surprised that you aren't in a relationship since it seems like you have all the answers.
- Wondering.
Wondering,
You have a valid point, and that's a fair observation. I'm not in a relationship currently, so it may seem that I'm not really qualified to give advice...but, the truth is, I've never been qualified. Keep in mind I'm a student majoring in communication with a concentration in print journalism. The advice I give out is strictly my opinion, and is based on my past and recent experiences. Why am I not in a relationship right now? I don't know. I'm just not. I'm not sure how closely you follow my columns, but I was engaged up until a few months ago...so I'm not totally lost on the whole relationship concept. I answer these questions to the best of my ability, but it doesn't mean that I have all the answers. I don't believe anyone has all the answers. Hope this helps.
Dear Julie,
How much is too much to spend on a date?
-Muknee.
MuKnee,
Hmm…this is a tough one. It depends. Is it a special occasion? Do you go on dates very often? A lot of things factor into this question. I don't think every date should necessarily involve spending a ton of money, but every once in a while it's to be expected. I think it's important to make sure that you and your significant other can be happy and content with not spending a lot of money while on a date. There are plenty of things to do that can be romantic and fun, and not require spending a lot of money. For instance, instead of going out to dinner, stay in and cook. You might have to get creative, but there are alternatives to spending a lot of money on every single date.
I'll be graduating in a few weeks, and am worried about the future of my current relationship. My girlfriend and I have been dating for a couple months now, and I already care a lot for her. However, I'm not sure of my plans after graduating, and as it looks now, I may be moving away. I'm not sure if I should bring this up to her so soon in our relationship, because I don't want her to think that I'm trying to plan out our future together. At the same time, I don't want it to be a shock to her if I do move. Should I just wait until the time comes and then figure out what to do?
- MovinMan
MovinMan,
If I were you, I would let her know all the possibilities of what you might do after graduation. I think that's only fair to her. I can see where you wouldn't want it to come out as though you are trying to plan things out too closely for a future with her, but I don't think springing it on her that you're moving at the last minute is the way to go about it. You also need to think about if you would want a long-distance relationship if that were to happen. If not, you need to be prepared to discuss that with her when the time comes. I know you might be overwhelmed with not knowing exactly what will happen after graduation, but try to be as open as possible to the people closest to you. Their lives are affected greatly by what happens in your own life. So, I would say have a heart-to-heart with your girlfriend, and let her know all the possibilities of what might happen after you graduate. Good luck to you, and congratulations on graduating!
Dear Julie,
Not to be mean, but I can't help but notice that you give advice, but you aren't in a relationship yourself. Why is this? I think your advice is great and helpful, but I'm surprised that you aren't in a relationship since it seems like you have all the answers.
- Wondering.
Wondering,
You have a valid point, and that's a fair observation. I'm not in a relationship currently, so it may seem that I'm not really qualified to give advice...but, the truth is, I've never been qualified. Keep in mind I'm a student majoring in communication with a concentration in print journalism. The advice I give out is strictly my opinion, and is based on my past and recent experiences. Why am I not in a relationship right now? I don't know. I'm just not. I'm not sure how closely you follow my columns, but I was engaged up until a few months ago...so I'm not totally lost on the whole relationship concept. I answer these questions to the best of my ability, but it doesn't mean that I have all the answers. I don't believe anyone has all the answers. Hope this helps.
Dear Julie,
How much is too much to spend on a date?
-Muknee.
MuKnee,
Hmm…this is a tough one. It depends. Is it a special occasion? Do you go on dates very often? A lot of things factor into this question. I don't think every date should necessarily involve spending a ton of money, but every once in a while it's to be expected. I think it's important to make sure that you and your significant other can be happy and content with not spending a lot of money while on a date. There are plenty of things to do that can be romantic and fun, and not require spending a lot of money. For instance, instead of going out to dinner, stay in and cook. You might have to get creative, but there are alternatives to spending a lot of money on every single date.
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resume
posted 5/19/10 @ 10:41 AM CST
Good information. And especially i Like the question with the dates. =)
Frustrated
posted 5/28/10 @ 4:47 PM CST
I have a friend that feels she is being bullied on her job. What advice would you give to her knowing that she can't afford to quit because she is also a single parent of two children?
Barbara
posted 7/27/10 @ 7:49 AM CST
Very sincere and simple answers. And I think it`s true that Julie Skinner says really what she feels, I like it.
Davenport Iowa movers
posted 7/29/10 @ 4:14 PM CST
This is line the entry that really stood out to me:
MuKnee,
Hmm...this is a tough one. It depends. Is it a special occasion? Do you go on dates very often? A lot of things factor into this question. (Continued…)
Milama
posted 8/25/10 @ 9:42 AM CST
I think love at distance exists, but MovinMan why you should travel, you can`t find work in your city?
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